Enlightenment moves your conscious level to a higher level and as enlightenment goes up so does your vibrations. At a higher level your response to the events in your life become different .
No more true is this for us survivors who are grieving the death of someone close to us.
In my case enlightenment happened through the nightmare of the death of my daughter. The roller coaster ride to find a place for the new me in a new life beyond anything I could imagine was a climbing out of what I knew to what I didn’t know.
Grief creates a dense brain fog and through the fog we breath, we walk, we talk, we function as best we can. The world is going on around you but you’re nowhere to be found. You involve yourself but in reality you’re not present. The fog is so thick and heavy you feel at times as tho you are crazy. You’re sure not the normal you once were. You have lost your bearings in an ocean of agony.
The only way out is through the storm and all the ravages and damages that the waves bring with it. It comes and batters you and leaves – it returns when you least expect it.
You feel alone and isolated. You don’t want to burden anyone with your pain but the pain is intense both physically and mentally. Sharing helps release it. I focused on keeping the pain at bay as best as I could thinking (wrongly of course) that if I let the pain in it would kill me – I’d dissolve into a mess and never be able to regain control.
I worked on diversions of many kinds – and diversion can be a tool for survival but it can become a habit and if it becomes a habit you’ll be putting yourself on a treadmill going absolutely nowhere – busy spinning your wheels – wearing out your body and exhaustion will happen and that can lead to worse things for your body and mind.
Diversions can be healthy if they are a healthy diversion.
I totally took to the gym and took to the halls of learning – Thank God these diversions weren’t destructive and helped carry me through until I was strong enough mentally to face reality – reality only in small increments.
Enlightenment tells us it’s in the acceptance (not saying it’s OK) but accepting the pain for exactly what it is that the pain eases and leaves til the next time . Over time and hard work healing comes. Takes patience in the waiting and while you’re waiting choose to develop yourself.
Grieving is not a journey for the weak. If you are weak in the beginning – and that is normal – with hard work and growth you’ll come out of the grief journey a Mighty Warrior. That my friends is what you need to become one step at a time.
Enlightenment tells us it’s in the acceptance (not saying it’s OK) but accepting the pain for exactly what it is the pain eases and leaves til the next time and over time and hard work becomes minimal.
Recovering from grief is a hard long journey. It’s not a single event but a process.
Grief comes on us suddenly and leaves us slowly.
Our hearts take time to recover and heal and you don’t ever totally heal . You learn to pack your loss like a packsack on your back. Over time you grow stronger and at the packsack isn’t quite so heavy.
Responding to Grief helps if you have someone who has been there to lean on. As your shared experiences mesh you accept new habits into your life. New ways of thinking and doing that will with time and consistency ease your pain on your journey.
Numbness and shock are usually the FIRST feelings. You’re insulated partly from the reality of what has happened. STUNNED is a good word – because you function as tho in a dream – a nightmare that you can’t wake up from.
Guilt – blaming ourselves irrationally and anger are honest emotions of how we feel.
Your grief will be the heaviest burden you’ll ever carry. Why carry it alone. Turn it over to God.*
We only cast our cares over to God when we realize the depth of our weakness and the depth of God’s love. When we’re floundering to live we grasp a life line – let that life line be God. If you Ask God to help you carry your burden and lighten your load slowly but surely over time he will. One step at a time. ** Go on living until you feel alive again.
*Psm 55: 22 ‘’Cast your burden on the Lord and He shall sustain you.
** 2 Cor.1:3 &4 ‘’The Father of mercies and God of All comfort. Who comforts us in ALL our tribulations so we may be able to comfort those who are in trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God’’.