Grief and the Holidays

Beauty is in the mind of the beholder.


A good analogy of the first Christmas is ‘’frozen’’. The inside feelings are like the

North country. Frozen and in limbo. The zest that you feel in the Spring of the year

when the flowers and leaves start to come alive is absent in the barrenness of

‘’frozen’’. Know that ‘’frozen’’ will pass and the ‘’thaw’’ will come and ‘’fresh life’’ will

appear. You are walking the Season of darkness at the moment but like ALL

seasons it will transcend into Spring and new life. For now your job is to do the

best you can to survive it better and not bitter. Think of nothing but what gives you

‘’peace’’. If it creates any kind of ‘’turmoil’’ the answer should be ‘’No – nada – not

going to happen’’. Allow yourself the permission to say ‘’No’’. It’s OK.

Don’t have the energy to buy gifts – don’t !! Or just cut your gift list down to barebones. I did that and wow that was a total relief of stress. I bought for my two sons – that’s it – that’s all. It was a beginning of new traditions.

Cutting down the gift list was a start – Huge – and one I continue to this day BUT now I have three of the most marvelous, perfect grandchildren (chuckle chuckle) I want to buy them whatever they want. What a Blessing. Love is the key to the Season and ALLSeasons – so just love – starting with YOURSELF my friend.